Are rebounds a good thing?

We all know that everyone has a different take on this question. I think generally the answer is no. I’m finding out for myself that the answer might be yes.

For clarification, what’s a rebound? And I’m not talking basketball here. I wish I was. Divorce Support defines a rebound as:

A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship."

-- About.com: Divorce Support

I have had more than my share of rebounds recently (by the above definition). I've had a year-long break from a "long lasting relationship" and suddenly find myself willing to date again. Even a few days ago this was not the case, so it's somewhat of a revelation. I think it has a lot to do with the type and personality of the person bringing me out of my shell. I'm nervous, and giddy, and happy, and confident (most of the time). But I feel emotionally healthy about it, and that was missing from some of my other "rebounds". I hope this remains a good thing.

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