New Studies Say Teens May Be Hardwired for Religion

January 28, 2005
This is just a snippet of the article, click on the link above to read the whole article.

"So what's the problem? A significant cause of this "crisis," the commission said, is that children and teens are experiencing "a lack of connectedness ... to other people, and [lack of] deep connections to moral and spiritual meaning."

Such connectedness is critical for developing children, because the report insisted that human beings, from their earliest years, are essentially "hardwired" to form close attachments to other people, beginning with parents, and then expanding to include a wider group of people as the child grows up.

Not surprisingly for Christians who believe that God has designed the human race for this sense of and need for community, the commission noted that this appears to be hardwired into the biology of personhood.

According to Shaw, however, kids are experiencing these connections less and less in modern America. He said, "I believe that the parenting trends that have evolved over the last 30 years promote the development of unattached, uncommunicative, learning-impaired, and uncontrollable children."

Calling these parenting trends "a prescription for disaster," Shaw said the lifestyle choices many parents have made have compromised children's "opportunity for the connections and rituals and nurturing that are so necessary to children's healthy development."

One of the biggest modern parenting mistakes, he said, is: "Not conveying to your child -- through both actions and words -- the moral, ethical, and spiritual values you believe in (or not having moral, ethical, and spiritual values in the first place)."

Baby Queen

January 24, 2005
For all of you with babies, you can relate to this one BabyQueen.pps


You know, you have to wonder if it's worth it to grow your daughter's hair out when it takes half a bottle of detangler and a half hour or more to just comb out the tangles. not to mention the ow's and other yowls. Though she does look incredibly cute when her hair is done.

The Blessing in Pink Eye

Well, Joy woke up with what looks like Pink Eye. I had a mad scramble calling all of my daycare kids away and one called on her way. It was supposed to be her boys' first day here. What a lousy first impression. Another I had to turn away at the door. It was a very hard choice for her, either take her dd to work or pay $40 to another provider for drop-in care. *sigh* I think she's only going to work a half-day and make it up by not taking her late days for the next few weeks.

How *do* you keep kids healthy in an environment like this????

Oh yeah, the blessing -- I now have plenty of time today to spend with my children, after we get Joy to the doctor. And maybe I can get a little more caught up on cleaning house. It's in total CHAOS right now except for the living room. And even that is headed into CHAOS since both Josh and Joy are down there.

Almost 8:30, time to call the pediatrician.

The Cost of Kids (a forward)

January 20, 2005
I have repeatedly seen the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way. It's nice, really nice!

The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140.00 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock! That doesn't even touch college tuition.

But $160,140 isn't so bad if you break it down. It translates into $8,896 a year, $741.38 a month, or $171.08 a week. That's a mere $24.24 a day! Just over a dollar an hour. Still, you might think the best financial advice says don't have children if you want to be "rich." It is just the opposite.

What do your get for your $160,140?

  • Naming rights,--- First, middle, and last!

  • Glimpses of God everyday.

  • Giggles under the covers every night.

  • More love than your heart can hold.

  • Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.

  • Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies.

  • A hand to hold, usually covered with jam.

  • A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites, building sand castles, and skipping down the sidewalk in the pouring rain.

  • Someone to laugh yourself silly with no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day.

For $160,140, you never have to grow up. You get to finger-paint, carve pumpkins, play hide-and-seek, catch lightning bugs, and never stop believing in Santa Claus. You have an excuse to keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh, watching Saturday morning cartoons, going to Disney Land, and wishing on stars. You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay for Mother's Day, and cards with backward letters for Father's Day.

For $160,140, there is no greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for retrieving a Frisbee off the garage roof, taking the training wheels off the bike, removing a splinter, filling a wading pool, coaxing a wad of gum out of bangs, and coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless. You get a front row seat to history to witness the first step, first word, first bra, first date, and first time behind the wheel. You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you're lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren. You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no college can match.

In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there with God. You have all the power to heal a booboo, scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits, so one day they will, like you, love without counting the cost.


A short history lesson on the privilege of voting...

Ok, so voting time is over, but I was cleaning out my inbox and came across an item I should have read back in Septemember when it was sent. I have some reading to do ...
A friend sent this to me, I was skeptical at first. I searched on for this and did not find it. I searched and found the movie "Iron Jawed Angels". I also searched our libraries website for the book, "Jailed For Freedom" by Doris Stevens,( said the movie followed this book) and found it as well. So, I am assuming this is true. I think that all of us vote, though before Oregon had mail in ballets, I struggled with the days that I had babes in arms and it was raining!!

Here is One to think about!!

A short history lesson on the privilege of voting...

The women were innocent and defenseless. And by the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty prison guards wielding clubs and their warden's blessing went on a rampage against the 33 women wrongly convicted of "obstructing sidewalk traffic."

They beat Lucy Burn, chained her hands to the cell bars above her head and left her hanging for the night, bleeding and gasping for air. They hurled Dora Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cell mate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women.

Thus unfolded the "Night of Terror" on Nov. 15, 1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to picket Woodrow Wilson's White House for the right to vote.

For weeks, the women's only water came from an open pail. Their food--all of it colorless slop--was infested with worms. When one of the leaders, Alice Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the press.

So, refresh my memory. Some women won't vote this year because--why, exactly? We have carpool duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn't matter? It's raining?

Last week, I went to a sparsely attended screening of HBO's new movie "Iron Jawed Angels." It is a graphic depiction of the battle these women waged so that I could pull the curtain at the polling booth and have my say. I am ashamed to say I needed the reminder.

All these years later, voter registration is still my passion. But the actual act of voting had become less personal for me, more rote. Frankly, voting often felt more like an obligation than a privilege. Sometimes it was inconvenient.

My friend Wendy, who is my age and studied women's history, saw the HBO movie, too. When she stopped by my desk to talk about it, she looked angry. She was--with herself. "One thought kept coming back to me as I watched that movie," she said. "What would those women think of the way I use --or don't use -- my right to vote? All of us take it for granted now, not just younger women, but those of us who did seek to learn." The right to vote, she said, had become valuable to her "all over again."

HBO will run the movie periodically before releasing it on video and DVD. I wish all history, social studies and government teachers would include the movie in their curriculum. I want it shown on Bunco night, too, and anywhere else women gather. I realize this isn't our usual idea of socializing, but we are not voting in the numbers that we should be, and I think a little shock therapy is in order.

It is jarring to watch Woodrow Wilson and his cronies try to persuade a psychiatrist to declare Alice Paul insane so that she could be permanently institutionalized. And it is inspiring to watch the doctor refuse. Alice Paul was strong, he said, and brave. That didn't make her crazy. The doctor admonished the men: "Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity."

Please pass this on to all the women you know. We need to get out and vote and use this right that was fought so hard for by these very courageous women.

Bush takes oath of office for second term

Darn it, I missed the inauguration this morning.
Bush takes oath of office for second term

Pick your dessert

I'm Chocolate Cake/Chocolate Icing --- which sounds *really* good right about now. Too bad my teeth still hurt from the dentist. The friend who sent me this is a brownie, though you wouldn't know it from looking at her.

Pick your dessert, then look to see what psychiatrists think about you!
No cheating!

After taking this dessert personality test, send this e-mail on to others, but when you do, be sure to put your choice of dessert in the subject line. ALSO, SEND IT TO THE PERSON WHO SENT IT TO YOU!

Okay, if all of the desserts listed below were sitting in front of you, which would you choose?

(Sorry, you can only pick one!)

Angel Food Cake
Lemon Meringue Pie
Vanilla Cake/Chocolate Icing
Strawberry Shortcake
Chocolate Cake/Chocolate Icing
Ice Cream
Carrot Cake

NO You can't change your mind once you scroll down! So think carefully what your choice will be!

OK - Now that you've made your choice, this is what research says about you!

Angel Food Cake - Sweet, loving, cuddly. You love all warm and fuzzy items. A little nutty at times. Sometimes you need an ice cream cone at the end of the day. Others perceive you as being childlike and immature at times.

Brownies - You are adventurous, love new ideas, are a champion of underdogs and a slayer of dragons. When tempers flare up, you whip out your saber. You are always the oddball with a unique sense of humor and direction. You tend to be very loyal.

Lemon Meringue Pie - Smooth, sexy, & articulate with your hands, you are an xcellent after-dinner speaker and a good teacher. But don't try to walk and chew gum at the same time. A bit of a diva at times, but you have many friends.

Vanilla Cake/Chocolate Icing - Fun-loving, sassy, humorous. Not very grounded in life; very indecisive and lack motivation. Everyone enjoys being around you, but you are a practical joker. Others should be cautious in making you mad. However, you
are a friend for life.

Strawberry Shortcake - Romantic, warm, loving. You care about other people and can be counted on in a pinch! You tend to melt. You can be overly emotional and annoying at times.

Chocolate Cake/Chocolate Icing - Sexy, always ready to give and receive. Very creative, adventurous, ambitious,and passionate. You have a cold exterior but are warm on the inside. Not afraid to take chances. Will not settle for anything average in life. Love to laugh.

Ice Cream - You like sports, whether it be baseball, football, basketball, or soccer If you could, you would like to participate, but you enjoy watching sports. You don't like to give up the remote control. You tend to be self-centered and high maintenance.

Carrot Cake - You are a very fun loving person, who likes to laugh. You are fun to be with. People like to hang out with you. You are a very warm hearted person and a little quirky at times. You have many loyal friends.

Urban Legends Reference Pages: Inboxer Rebellion (Internet Petitions)

January 19, 2005
I read this after receiving yet another call-to-arms to do something for society at large. I think you should read it too if you haven't already. And what a cool word "slacktivism".

Urban Legends Reference Pages: Inboxer Rebellion (Internet Petitions):

"E-petitions are the latest manifestation of slacktivism, the search for the ultimate feel-good that derives from having come to society's rescue without having had to actually gets one's hands dirty or open one's wallet. It's slacktivism that prompts us to forward appeals for business cards on behalf of a dying child intent upon having his name recorded in the Guinness World Book of Records or exhortations to others to continue circulating a particular e-mail because some big company has supposedly promised that every forward will generate monies for the care of a particular dying child. Likewise, it's slacktivism that prompts us to want a join a boycott of designated gas companies or eschew buying gasoline on a particular day rather than reduce our personal consumption of fossil fuels by driving less and taking the bus more often. Slacktivism comes in many forms (and there are many other illustrations of it on this web site; our goal was merely to offer a few examples rather than provide a definitive list), but its key defining characteristic is its central theme of doing good with little or no effort on the part of person inspired to participate in the forwarding, exhorting, collecting, or e-signing. "

Making God Laugh


You know how to you make God laugh?

Tell him your plans.

Laura Ingalls Wilder

Laura Ingalls Wilder

She's *still* one of my favorite authors.

Too Much

January 8, 2005
Do you ever have days when you know that you are doing too much? Or just in general doing too much?

This morning I have 3 back-to-back meetings starting at 8 AM and ending around noon, ranging from Beaverton to the other side of Hillsboro. Only one of these things was actually on my calendar and in my radar. The fact that I am writing this now lets you know that I missed the first meeting. ... You know you're tired when your 2-year-old daughter pulls you out of bed to lead you to the shower and you can't open your eyes. Joy is really excited to run errands and go to meeting with me, but I just couldn't open my eyes!

My SIL is supposed to visit and I still have to rearrange the playroom, get insulating film put up on two or three more windows, get to Lowe's and Michael's for sale stuff, do some laundry, do my Bible study, and get at least one newsletter done -- for which the content has yet to reach my desk. I'm the publisher/editor, but I don't write content. All of the above needs to be done by Monday.

Tim says, "Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part" -- referring to some of the items on my list that I can't do anything about until material gets to me -- *sigh* I am bone tired. Now it's time to send off a few more emails, hop in the shower and hopefully get to my chiro appt. on time.
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